perceptions

Una buena comunicación debe ayudarnos a eliminar las percepciones erróneas, debemos aprender a observar y  escuchar profundamente. Lo que percibimos no es la realidad, es solo un imagen, una idea que esta influenciada por nuestros prejuicios, ideas y sentimientos.

The Buddha observed, "The person who suffers most in this world is the person who has many wrong perceptions... And most of our perceptions are erroneous. "

Hay una historia muy interesante que voy a copiar literalmente que ejemplifica el problema. Es la historia de una pareja que sufre a causa del orgullo.

 “The husband had to go off to war, and he left his pregnant wife behind. Three years later, when he was released from the army, his wife came to the village gate to welcome him, and she brought along their little boy. When the young couple saw each other, they could not hold back the tears of joy. They were thankful to their ancestors for protecting them, and the young man asked his wife to go to the marketplace to buy some fruit, flowers, and other offerings to place on the ancestors’ altar.

While she was shopping, the young father asked his son to call him Daddy, but the little boy refused. “sir, you are not my daddy! My daddy used to come every night, and my mother would talk to him and cry. When mother sat down, daddy also sat down. When mother lay down, my daddy lay down.” Hearing these words, the young father’s heart turned to stone.

When his wife returned, he could not even look at her. The young man offered fruit, flowers, and incense to the ancestors, made prostrations, and then rolled up the bowing mat and did not allow her to do the same. He believed that she was not worthy to present herself in front of the ancestors. Then he walked out of the house and spent his days drinking and walking about the village. His wife could not understand why he was acting like that. Finally, after three days, she could bear it no longer, and she jumped into the river and drowned herself.

The evening after the funeral, when the young father lit the kerosene lamp, his little boy shouted, “There is my daddy!”He pointed to his father’s shadow projected on the wall and said, “My daddy used to come every night just like that, and my mother would talk to him and cry a lot. When my mother sat down, he sat down. When my mother lay down, he lay down.””Darling, you have been away for too long. How can i raise our child alone?” she cried to her shadow. One night the child asked her who and where his father was. She pointed to her shadow on the wall and said, “This is your father.”She missed him so much.

Suddenly the young father understood, but i was too late. If he had gone to his wife and asked, “Darling, i suffer so much. Our little boy said a man used to come every night and you would talk to him and cry with him, and every time you sat down, he also sat down. Who is that person?”she would have had an opportunity to explain and avert the tragedy. But he did not because of the pride in him.

The lady behaved the same. She was deeply hurt because of her husband’s behaviour, but she did not ask for this help. She should have practiced the fourth mantra, “Darling, i suffer so much. Please help. I do not understand why you will not look at me or talk with me. Why didn’t you allow me to prostrate before the ancestors? Have i done anything wrong?”If she had done that, her husband could have told her what the little boy said. But she did not, because she, too, was caught in pride.
In true love, there is no place for pride. When you are hurt by the person you love, when you suffer and believe that your suffering has been caused by the person you love the most, remember this story. Do not act like the father or the mother of the little boy. Do not let pride stand in your way. Practice the fourth mantra: “Darling, I am suffering. Please help.” If you really consider him to be the one you love the most in this life, you have to do that. When he hears your words, he will come back to himself and practice looking deeply. Then the two of you will be able to sort thing out, reconcile, and dissolve the wrong perception."       

Por fin te encontré

No es mucho pero es un inicio. Les comparto una cancion de uno de mis artistas favoritos, Ismael Serrano. Es cursi pero si alguna vez se han enamorado podrán apreciarla. En este momento yo lo hago :)


Por fin te encontré
como un candil brillando entre la nada.
Yo era Robinson
y descubrí tus huellas en la playa.
Tanto te esperé…
Yo, Adán expulsado del paraíso.
Tú, Eva maldiciendo la manzana.
Allá donde ella viaja está mi edén.
Por fin te encontré.

Te encontré por fin,
vagando por las dunas del pasado.
Y sacié mi sed,
bebí del breve hueco de tus manos.
Tanto te esperé…
La mirada de un niño tú me diste,
la luz de un verano que había olvidado,
el temblor que trae la primera vez.
Por fin te encontré.

Ven aquí no digas nada.
No hace falta, que la noche ya
aprendió de tus silencios
y a descifrar nuestros cuerpos.
Derrumbemos las cautelas.
Compañera, estoy perdido y ya,
para tener miedo, es tarde.
Bendito azar es encontrarte.


Yo no te busqué
y te encontré al abrirse una ventana
por un vendaval
que trajo perfume a tierra mojada.
Tanto te esperé…
Yo Adán expulsado del paraíso.
Tu Eva maldiciendo la manzana.
Allá donde ella viaja esta mi Edén.
Por fin te encontré.

Ahora has de saber
que me hundo en tu mirada inabarcable.
Que esta aurora trae
certezas para espantar soledades.
Tanto, tanto te esperé…

Y puede que el planeta se derrumbe,
que la lumbre del mundo algún día se apague,
que el tiempo arrugue el alma y nuestra piel,
pero yo por fin te encontré.

Ven aquí no digas nada.
No hace falta, que la noche ya
aprendió de tus silencios
y a descifrar nuestros cuerpos.
Derrumbemos las cautelas.
Compañera, estoy perdido y ya,
para tener miedo, es tarde.
Bendito azar es encontrarte.

Por fin te encontré
como un candil brillando entre la nada.
Yo era Robinson
y descubrí tus huellas en la playa.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFJjygM-1xE